I’m new as in this is my first day using lemmy. I don’t know anything about lemmy etiquette and don’t want to do anything bad

thanks and have an amazing day! also plz be kind :D

  • lemmyout@lemmy.zip
    1625·
    12 days ago

    One thing to note is more often people here reply with genuine comments and in good faith. There is also a lack of clever snarky comments and baiting due to the lack of karma system.

    • Cat_Daddy [any, any]@hexbear.netEnglish
      51·
      12 days ago

      And the lack of karma also leads to more comments, as well. I liken lemmy to what the internet used to be like, where conversations among strangers happened regularly. It’s very rewarding and wholesome. Definitely not the “antisocial media” that reddit prides itself on.

      • Mk23simp@lemmy.blahaj.zone
        88·
        12 days ago

        Karma on reddit tracks the accumulated likes and dislikes a user has gotten on all of their posts. Lemmy does not have a number like that.

        Edit: What this means in practice is that on Reddit there are some users who make a lot of low-effort posts to get that karma number to go up and get a sense of accomplishment from that (even when they get a negative reputation among the other users), whereas on Lemmy that’s not really a thing. Lemmy has power-users that become well-known, but they’re more well-liked because they aim to gain actual reputation instead of just farming a karma number.

      • zecg@lemmy.world
        3·
        12 days ago

        Yes, but there’s no gating based on it so it doesn’t mean anything and you can turn it off.

    • MyMindIsLikeAnOcean@piefed.worldEnglish
      7·
      11 days ago

      This was the first thing that threw me off: people here tend to comment in good faith. I’m so used to people begging the question and generally having iron clad closed minds…from Reddit.

      …but here conservations have often come to conclusion where I and another user agree to disagree amicably, or one of us moves towards the other in light of new information or a logical argument.

      it’s really weird…but I hope it stays like that so I can get used to it.

    • gravitas_deficiency@sh.itjust.worksEnglish
      6·
      12 days ago

      I mean, yes and no. Most of the userbase is that way. But there are some users (and instances) that tend to be massive pains in the ass. So build and curate your blocklist too.

    • Harmonious@lemmy.world
      1130·
      12 days ago

      No they don’t. You’re lying and you know you’re lying. You’re just trying to suck up to the thread so you can get more karma. No one at Lemmy does that.

      “lOok aT Me, i kNoW leMmY eTiQueTte. More oFteN PeoPle heRe rEply wiTH gEnuIne ComMenTs aNd In gOOd fAiTh.” You’re so full of it. Watch this, my comment will recieve more upvotes than you

    • joelfromaus@aussie.zoneEnglish
      7·
      12 days ago

      Don’t forget GrapheneOS and Jellyfin! Anything else you can think of? It’ll be a lot easier if they can convert everything in one go.

      • Camille_Jamal@lemmy.mlOPEnglish
        1·
        9 days ago

        I plan on using mint for a while to adjust, and as a daily, and trying to install arch for the 546782376th time (I haven’t tried to install yet) when I’m bored

        Mint’s good for my purposes

    • Camille_Jamal@lemmy.mlOPEnglish
      3·
      9 days ago

      Working on it lol.

      Dad doesn’t want to switch to linux, because “his files” or something (libreoffice and ddg??? he uses ddg on some devices already and libreoffice is like free ms365) so if I get Frankenstein the Floor Computer running, yes, I will linux (I plan on dual booting mint/arch, but not being toxic about it)

  • IninewCrow@lemmy.caEnglish
    117·
    12 days ago

    Take advice from Detective Frank Drebin

    “Like a blindman at an orgy, I was going to have to feel my way through”

      • IninewCrow@lemmy.caEnglish
        21·
        12 days ago

        “I’m sure we can handle this situation maturely, just like the responsible adults that we are. Isn’t that right, Mr. Poopy Pants?”

    • Camille_Jamal@lemmy.mlOPEnglish
      3·
      9 days ago

      Fair, I just like to check these things so I don’t offend anyone or do anything mean. Thanks. Have a great day!

      • IninewCrow@lemmy.caEnglish
        2·
        9 days ago

        I was making light of your question … partly to have a bit of fun … and partly to show that the community enjoys sharing these silly little bits of movie quotes that act like memes. The one I was using is from the movie “The Naked Gun” (the original film from 1988 with Leslie Nielson)

        A lot of the meme communities enjoy old slapstick movie content as there is a lot of memeable content there … films like ‘The Naked Gun’ series, Hot Shots, any of the Mel Brooks films and Monty Python.

        Don’t be afraid to test your boundaries, comment as you like but with an open mind and kind heart … people will let you know if you’ve said or implied anything negative or positive. Don’t be discouraged if you get no response either … it’s not a popularity contest. The longer you stay, the more you comment, the more you get to know people and the more they get to know you and eventually you become a regular part of the community.

        Welcome to Lemmy and welcome to the fediverse.

        • Camille_Jamal@lemmy.mlOPEnglish
          2·
          8 days ago

          Thanks, and I’ve seen Monty Python and the holy grail and flying circus! Very silly and memeable lol. Have a great day!

  • WeirdGoesPro@lemmy.dbzer0.com
    92·
    12 days ago

    It’s smaller, but more personable. It’s full of neurodivergent, queer, and tech oriented people. It has its own inside jokes—you will want to read up on beans.

    Overall, I have enjoyed the experience. Sometimes, I have been surprised when people can’t detect obvious jokes or sarcasm, but then I remember how many people here are neurodivergent and try to reply with something kind and straightforward so we’re on the same page.

    People tend to be very leftist compared to the rest of the internet, so it’s good to remember that the opinions here are not always representative of the world at large.

    A huge chunk of Lemmy is German, and that part of the community remains a total mystery to me because I don’t speak German. They seem cool from afar.

    Which communities you are able to see depends pretty heavily on which instance is your home base—I’m with DB0, and we federate with pretty much everyone who isn’t doing something detestably illegal, but LemmyWorld is much more exclusive with who they federate with, so their users don’t see the same instances that I do. Pick a home instance that fits you best because it will matter a lot as you find communities.

    You will see interactions between communists and anarchists. Try to remember that you don’t have to comment on everything you might disagree with.

    Welcome to the Fediverse—we’re happy to have you.

    • VieuxQueb@lemmy.ca
      5·
      12 days ago

      Speaking of federation, do you know if there is a site that compares federation from instances. It would be nice to make a good decision before creating an account. Like I am on lemmy.ca and have no idea what you may see that i don’t. Personally I feel like lemmy.ca is good but have no comparison point other than lemmy.world I used a little.

      And for OP if you browse on mobile I tried a lot of apps and settled on “Summit”. It’s great and stable.

      • Jayjader@jlai.luEnglish
        3·
        11 days ago

        There used to be this website, but the url just loads up a scam site now (I’ve created this issue on the project’s tracker if anyone has additional info to contribute).

        I don’t know how technical you are, @VieuxQueb@lemmy.ca , but you could try running the “defed-investigator” project locally.

    • Camille_Jamal@lemmy.mlOPEnglish
      2·
      9 days ago

      Thanks, have a great day! :D

      I have more excuses to learn German piling up lol (I have a German friend… 2 actually, and also this platform. I wanna learn something that seems interesting to me)

      Also I have diverged neurons (joke, I mean I’m nd) I’m AuDHD.

      Please don’t treat too different just because I’m nd yall (I’ve had bad experiences with ableism, long story)

      Anyways thanks again :D

      Wait a minute… I’ve seen you before… forgot where on here though.

      • WeirdGoesPro@lemmy.dbzer0.com
        3·
        2 days ago

        I get around, lol. I’ve been on Lemmy for quite a while now.

        My girlfriend is also on the spectrum, so I try to handle neurodivergent misunderstandings here the same way I do with her: cunnilingus, uh, I mean, a clearly worded rephrasing of my statement.

        Glad you found us, it sounds like you’ll fit in well here.

  • Okokimup@lemmy.world
    943·
    12 days ago

    Please do not drag the same tired jokes over from reddit (e.g. broken arms). Stick around long enough to learn Lemmy’s tired jokes.

  • davel [he/him]@lemmy.mlEnglish
    661·
    12 days ago

    Each Lemmy instance has its own rules, and each community as well. Please read them before posting, because rule #3 for this community is:

    1. Not regarding using or support for Lemmy: context, see the list of support communities and tools for finding communities below
    • BCsven@lemmy.ca
      21·
      12 days ago

      I switched from reddit awhile back. It is similar, but so far have seen a lot less hostility than reddit. I don’t have time for those types , so if they turn to insults rather than proper dialog I just block them, even if they weren’t talking to me directly. It makes it a much more pleasant experience

      • Aussiemandeus@aussie.zone
        15·
        12 days ago

        Hey screw you buddy,

        But seriously it is much friendlier, the only thing i do differently is i tag users who bother me or who i see being and agitator.

        That way i see who it is and don’t react. I also try not to block people because we all have bad days and it’s kinda like killing them with no trial.

        • BCsven@lemmy.ca
          12·
          12 days ago

          I check their other comments to see if it is just a one off, or their overarching personality type. Majority they are dicks to everyone.

  • Azzu@lemmy.dbzer0.com
    592·
    12 days ago

    Don’t do shit like “lemmy etiquette”. Just follow human etiquette and be a pleasant human and everything will be fine.

    Also stop worrying so much about “doing anything bad”. Sometimes you fuck up, sometimes you upset people, it’s no big deal. You’re good.

  • mesa@piefed.socialEnglish
    531·
    12 days ago

    Don’t be a jerk and you will be fine.

    We are all mostly human here. Just remember that. Hope you have a great time on the fediverse!

  • wizardbeard@lemmy.dbzer0.comEnglish
    401·
    12 days ago

    Because lemmy is much smaller, you tend to rub into the same users more often. So if someone comes off as abrasive, blocking them can have a notable impact on your experience.

    Dogpiling is worse, and it can pay to know what instance the community you’re posting in is, as the games community on hexbear is going to be different than on world.

    It’s much more “left” than reddit. Notably, while this instance, lemmy.ml, is the flagship instance run by the lead dev, the “ml” stands for marxist-leninist.

    • hexagonwin@lemmy.sdf.org
      11·
      12 days ago

      does ml actually stand for marxist-leninist? i remember using domains with .ml tld a long time ago with freenom’s $0 domains lol.

    • Camille_Jamal@lemmy.mlOPEnglish
      1·
      8 days ago

      Alright thanks! Also I don’t know what marxist-leninist is, but it sounds like politics, so I’m gonna try a few more instances along with this but anyways have a great day! :D

      • Diva (she/her)@lemmy.ml
        21·
        12 days ago

        Didn’t take long to get banned for my radical opinion that all forms of Us-vs-Them tribalism are dehumanizing.

        it’s always the pro-genocide people acting so injured on when the vile stuff they say gets a negative response

          • BrainInABox@lemmy.mlEnglish
            61·
            10 days ago

            You are rather quick to assume I am one of the “pro-genocide people”.

            Oh, I’m not assuming.

            I try not to “both-sides”

            "I try to not both-sides this, please ignore that I just did and am about to do so again.

            I was trying (poorly) to show that the same standard was not being applied equally.

            “Don’t you mean all lives matter?”

            pretty emotional topic.

            It be an emotional topic usually makes people more sympathetic towards the victims of genocide, not more inclined to start going “but what about both sides!”

            Anyway, good luck fighting against everyone until they agree with you.

            Go back to reddit, you insufferable loser.

    • 4am@lemmy.zip
      282·
      12 days ago

      I actually like the hexbears for the most part

      It’s the snowflake libertarians who get all bent out of shape when they get called out by a plurality of leftists after chirping about their supposed freedom and they start crying on the timeline about how illegal that should be that gets me

      • grillgamesh@lemmy.dbzer0.comEnglish
        68·
        12 days ago

        the hilarity of the cooking and mealprep community doing “content warnings” for literal food is always a good source of laughter.

        • Cowbee [he/they]@lemmy.ml
          11·
          12 days ago

          Hexbear is explicitly pro-vegan, and takes care to make it a space where you can avoid seeing meat consumption if you wish. That’s why there are CWs for meat.

        • TankieTanuki [he/him]@hexbear.netEnglish
          25·
          12 days ago

          He didn’t call Hexbears, libertarians, comrade; he said he prefers them over libertarians.

          Hexbears have disdain for libertarians[1], so we certainly don’t pretend to be them.

          1. Libertarian can have broad definitions, but in this context I’m referring to right-libertarians, aka anarcho-capitalists, which is the dominant type of self-identified libertarian on the Anglosphere internet ↩︎

        • BrainInABox@lemmy.mlEnglish
          5·
          11 days ago

          Yeah man, hexbear users are always claiming to be libertarians…

          Comments like these are great reminders that most of camp fire are dreamed up by people who never actually go there

  • Cowbee [he/they]@lemmy.ml
    32·
    12 days ago

    By ratio, there are way more communists than on Reddit. There are three major groups, anarchists, Marxist-Leninists, and liberals, and each instance tends to have more of one or maybe 2 than the others. Getting a feel for instance culture goes a long way.

  • Gerudo@lemmy.zip
    399·
    12 days ago

    Each instance has its own vibe. You joined .ml, just a fair warning that a few instances and a chunk of Lemmy users have defederated/blocked it, so you may miss out on some content. Otherwise, pretty chill for the most part.

    • chillpanzee@lemmy.mlEnglish
      221·
      12 days ago

      I’m like OP from a few months ago. I joined ML because it was easy and sorta anonymous. What’s the story on ML? Who defederated? What am I missing?

      • TankieTanuki [he/him]@hexbear.netEnglish
        352·
        12 days ago

        It’s the devs’ test instance.

        The devs are Marxist-Leninists. They’re the admins of the instance. Therefore the instance has nuanced-to-positive views on Actually Existing Socialist (AES) states, and allows for criticism of Democrats from the left.

        It’s been defederated by instances whose admins aren’t wiling to critically examine their lifetime of capitalist programming and are accustomed to Reddit’s universal condemnation of AES states.

        • QuietCupcake [any, they/them]@hexbear.netEnglish
          284·
          12 days ago

          For anyone reading this who might be scratching their head as to what “tankie” means, you can find descrriptions of its history a number of places, but for all intents and purposes here on the fediverse, it simply refers to the people who have the most education in history and socioeconomics. Since reality is in direct contradiction with most of the prevailing narratives pushed by the powerful beneficiaries of the dominant systems (the most obvious of these systems being capitalism), there will always be a contingent of true believers in the dominant narrative who are shocked to find that there are others who openly reject those narratives. The former will clutch their pearls, aghast that the propaganda they’ve believed all their lives is being questioned by these… these… muckrakers! And so a pejorative is used (hence the word “tankies”) to otherize and sequester the individuals best able to challenge those narratives, individuals whose presence tends to trigger the uncomfortable feeling of cognitive dissonance in those who aren’t yet ready or able to put their beliefs to honest questioning.

          In short, if you have no problem with seeing and reading perspectives that might make you question your own perspective, then you should have no problem with the “tankies.” And as for those who would actively defederate from those vile tankie instances so as to avoid having to confront even the possibility that their own beliefs are riddled throughout with deep misconceptions, well that should tell you something about the priorities of those tankie-fearing communities.

          • ThirdConsul@lemmy.ml
            42·
            12 days ago

            The former will clutch their pearls, aghast that the propaganda they’ve believed all their lives is being questioned by these… these… muckrakers

            Well, to be fair, you should add that this definition matches also crazies on hexbear or ml who will defend EVERYTHING done by AES or Russia or China, because since Europe and USA are bad, then surely not those are always good.

            (Population of crazies is significantly smaller than 100%, but they tend to be remembered by the people throwing “tankies” at them).

        • BrainInABox@lemmy.mlEnglish
          7·
          11 days ago

          a bot or other disinformation agent pretending to be one

          Are people who claim to be leftists but turn out to be full blown NeoMcCarthyists tankies?

        • Anarcho-Bolshevik@lemmygrad.mlEnglish
          7·
          11 days ago

          What is it that you think would motivate a lower-class Westerner to sympathize with the Russian Federation and the People’s Republic of China?

          Having nothing better to do?

    • silica@lemmy.ml
      161·
      12 days ago

      Holy shit! That’s why a lot of my old communities haven’t been subscribed to yet.

      From a really sad lemm.ee refugee. I miss that instance.

      Any suggestions of chill instances just for tech, games and comics?

    • geneva_convenience@lemmy.ml
      133·
      12 days ago

      Each instance has its own vibe. You joined [Any Lemmy instance, just a fair warning that a few instances and a chunk of Lemmy users have defederated/blocked it, so you may miss out on some content. Otherwise, pretty chill for the most part.

      You can replace .ml with any Lemmy instance. The most Lemmy thing remains all the instance tribalism.

      • Gerudo@lemmy.zip
        46·
        12 days ago

        Yes, but a new user needs to know the instance they join has pros and cons. Like another user stated, they joined .ml after lemm.ee closed and didn’t know why several communities they had subscribed to weren’t showing up.

        Let’s be real for a second, lemmygrad, .ml and. hexbear are well known for blocking and being blocked on Lemmy. Users should know Lemmy isnt like reddit where each user can potentially see 100% of content, it’s dependent on your instance.

        • geneva_convenience@lemmy.ml
          91·
          12 days ago

          Lemmygrad an Hexbear sure. Nobody will recommend those as servers to start off.

          .ml however is a pretty general server which is federated very broadly. It’s not a bad place to start off.

  • xxam925@lemmy.zip
    30·
    12 days ago

    Me too! I have been browsing for a month or two and Reddit finally had enough of my “violent rhetoric”. This is like my second post.

    So what I am gathering is that here I CAN say that I believe that the only solution to capitalism is a revolution so violent and thorough that Mao would be uncomfortable?

    Or nah?

  • chemicalprophet@slrpnk.netEnglish
    323·
    12 days ago

    Well here if you disagree with someone do not engage just insult their beliefs and type ‘tankie’…wait you’re on .world right?