Starting to feel crushed by the weight of the world, riddled with guilt and disappointment in myself over my choices. Nothing I can do about the past though.
What are some of the ways you guys get yourselves out of a bad headspace?
I just say that nothing really matters. The inevitable outcome, which is death, will come to all. Weirdly, this calms me.
Tell myself to quit being such a piece of shit and to get it together.
The results are variable.
I go skateboarding. It clears my mind completely. It doesn’t matter that I can’t keep up with modern tricks or anything. It still puts me in a zen state of mind and being physically tiring it leaves me relaxed and not worried about anything.
Exercise is definitely part of it, but also the feeling of accomplishment and occupying the mind.
I’m sure other physical activities can do something similar, but it’s important to find something that fits you.
Stereotypical answer but I like to lift weights. Really any outlet that requires 100% mental focus is what helps me most.When I lift weights there is just me and the weight.No bad thoughts. You can’t lift bad thoughts.
I take stock.
What are my personal positive achievements?
Where am I right now, is it a good place?
It doesn’t have to be my final destination, but is it good?
If I strip away all the fringe and lingering bullshit, am I safe and happy in this specific point in time?
Like right now: I am on the couch drinking coffee on a Saturday morning. I have three dogs with me. I am safe and I am loved.
What happens tomorrow is future zombie_kong’s problem. Not todays.
Edit: you got this. It’s nothing. A mere blip in this adventure we call living.
Another thing that I like is considering not what I can do to “change my life in a year” but “what can I do tomorrow to improve my life even a little bit right now?”
Instead of getting caught up on larger things that might take years to achieve, if I consider something I can change right now that will make tomorrow a better day, those changes will add up much more quickly and noticeably.
Even if I can’t think of something, that’s fine. I can accept that, and just move on to the next day. The important thing is to ask myself this every day, so that I can give myself the option of making that change and having that reflection.
I walk. Short or long walks. Whatever I have time for. Even if I don’t really feel like walking. I find I almost never regret the decision to go. And I almost always return in a better mental state.
“You don’t have to do today again.”
I go take a walk. Beach would be ideal, but nowadays even at the park or lastly at the mall. Anywhere relatively safe to just walk and listen to music. I find it improves my mood.
Eating good food and taking a shower after a rough day helps a lot too.
Prior to my health and endurance being absolutely wrecked in the past year, I used to run. Ran as hard as I could through the fields near where I lived until my legs would die, all in the chase for that runner’s high; but when it did hit, it was good. Nowadays I can’t run as much, so I’m still trying to find new outlets, one of which has been messing with my selfhosted setup, another being writing paragraphs on lemmy lol.
Also, certain video game soundtracks evoke feelings of catharsis and calm for me, so there’s also that.
Sorry to read you are feeling this way.
We are all different; we don’t all respond the same way to the same things but I will share what works for me.
I try to channel that energy into something positive if I can - exercise that little bit harder, put more time and passion into my hobbies.
If that isn’t working I try to dissipate it; listening to heavy metal is my go to. The “heavier” it is the more therapeutic it becomes. Story-driven video games (and the odd first-person shooter or open world mess) can help too.
I have a young family and a family pet; I find that making time to play with them and doing activity with them helps, but even so I sometimes need time to myself to clear my head.
Oddly enough being at work helps too. By the time I’ve fixed someone else’s problems I realise that maybe mine can be fixed too.
I’ve never found that having a treat (food, drink, whatever) worked for me; I end up feeling guilty of the excess and empty afterwards - but I appreciate this works for some.
When all of the above fails - I phone a friend.
All of this is about making space to strip away the emotional burdens and perform a fair analysis of the situation. I’m very solution / results driven so I look for ways of moving forwards.
Take care out there.
Delta 8 and painting miniatures
I used to love making clay soldiers as a child. Maybe I’ll start again.
That’s cool, like I’m for sure not very good at this but it’s been a fun thing to learn, watching videos and buying like “good” paints and brushes. It’s been a neat hobby to mix up just playing video games and tv
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I’m in the godforsaken place that is Texas, so I’m using what I can get 🤣
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