- tried to stay positive, then misfortune strikes
- tried making friends, ended up ghosted
- tried looking for better job, then scammed
- tried save money, inflation happens
- tried sell product online, fees and tax cut, also less buyers.
- tried theraphy, the solution only dont think about it, its okay (if only it was that easy)
- tried being nice, taken advantage of
- tried being honest, get hatred
- tried religion, yet god let million of nice person suffers
- tried sleep, need regular medication
- tried work hard, ended up surgery and years of rehabilitation
at this point, i am so tired with whatever i do, it always doesnt work.
right now i can relate why some people choose to become evil person, because being good and nice person in this world is just not as rewarding as bad people does. even those people who ghosted and bullied me ended up becoming rich and succesful, and here i am struggle everyday. life is really unfair world.
i do set boundaries, i stopped once i was taken advantage of but still i feel that i am just wasting my effort of being nice which is frustating.
What makes you feel like you’re putting in effort?
i spent some time and energy to help them, yet what i got is taken advantage of. those time and energy can be used for something else.
What time and energy are spending?
Edit: I’m asking for examples because there are several things it can be. Right now, part of it may be that you’re setting yourself on fire to keep others warm, then you’re angry that your response isn’t reciprocal.
as example i contribute like listen and help giving advice to their problems, being as friendly as much as possible too and never triggers fight or conflict whatsoever but then one day, i am no longer able to as helpful as i am before and those ppl decided to ghosted me.
Yeah, it feels you’re giving others time when they won’t give it back. When you say you do so without causing a flight or conflict, maybe do so. Your time is valuable and also maybe they need to hear what they don’t want to hear.