Thurstylark
Open source nerd
Reddit refugee. Sync for Reddit is dead, all hail Sync for Lemmy!
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Thurstylark@lemm.eeto Asklemmy@lemmy.ml•Who are the member(s) of your chosen family/ies?English7·23 days agoOh, my partners, their partners, and the offspring thereof come to mind.
What can I say? Grew up with a close extended family that was familiar with adoption (both formal and otherwise). Couldn’t kick the habit when I moved out.
Thurstylark@lemm.eeto Lemmy Shitpost@lemmy.world•If it's not a text, the phone/video call is all about you and what you want. So I may as well join in.English1·2 months agoMemes by Freckle
Thurstylark@lemm.eeto Lemmy Shitpost@lemmy.world•Didn't believe what I was seeingEnglish30·2 months ago**friction has entered the chat**
Exaaaactly this. If you can’t laugh at yourself and me while we’re naked doing fun things, idk how much fun you’re having, really.
Thurstylark@lemm.eeto Lemmy Shitpost@lemmy.world•Always a fan of simple instructions on how to do everyday thingsEnglish9·3 months agoFor real, I can’t express how effective a well-placed "May I kiss you?” can be. For both parties.
Thurstylark@lemm.eeto 3DPrinting@lemmy.world•i just got a 5m trial piece of tri color filament.English5·3 months agoAlternatively, something with a generally round or cylindrical shape will also show off a smooth transition between colors as you turn it around the Z axis.
Thurstylark@lemm.eeto Lemmy Shitpost@lemmy.world•Good morning I choose not violent just hungry.English4·4 months agoYup, but there’s only so much bandwidth you can push at that frequency, so simple text messages are fine, but get any more complicated, and you’ll need more bandwidth.
Also it’s not encrypted in the slightest bit. Nor is it unknown. Nor is it difficult to detect and decode it with widely-available equipment. I could listen to my local hospital’s pager tower with a $35 dongle from several miles away.
Thurstylark@lemm.eeto Lemmy Shitpost@lemmy.world•Good morning I choose not violent just hungry.English18·4 months agoYes, actually. Probably still using POCSAG, too. Many large hospitals and emergency response departments still use pagers for this kind of stuff.
Thurstylark@lemm.eeOPto Polyamory@lemmy.world•Just had a dream that I caused poly chaos...English52·7 months agoApparently, my subconscious likes to take torture inspiration from the likes of Kyle 🤦
I see we have a volunteer
I already don’t own an xbox and am happy about it. Checkmate, MS.
Thurstylark@lemm.eeto World News@lemmy.world•Top pilots’ union sounds alarm as regulators consider smaller crew sizesEnglish25·9 months agoThen there’s the case of the pilot riding in the jump seat who had been taking magic mushrooms to deal with grief and depression, and genuinely thought the best course of action was to crash the plane. (he didn’t report his condition prior to resorting to elicit substances in fear of losing his career, which is a whole other rant. For those interested, this video goes more into that side of the story)
Granted he wasn’t flying (and didn’t try to fly, per-se), but I doubt that a single pilot could subdue someone who is tripping balls and keep a commercial airliner in the air simultaneously.
Or the many, many, many other cases that don’t make headlines in which a warm spare became imminently critical for the safety of hundreds of people (both in the air and on the ground). The reason they don’t get media attention is because “Situation on Plane Ended in the Good Way, System Worked as Intended” isn’t a headline that get clicks.
Hell, even aircraft themselves are built with redundancy for critical components. How in the fucking world could one even begin to justify not doing so for us squishy humans?
It’s not that this idea is just stupid, this idea is dangerously stupid.
Thurstylark@lemm.eeto Asklemmy@lemmy.ml•What is the worst IT setup you have seen at a company?English25·9 months agoFreight shipping company still running on a custom AS400 application for dispatch. Time is stored as a 4-digit number, which means the nightside dispachers have their own mini Y2K bug to deal with every midnight.
On one hand, hooray for computer-enforced fucking-off every night. On the other hand, the only people who could fix an entry stuck in the system because of this were on dayside.
Apparently, this actually isn’t uncommon in the industry, which I think is probably the worst part to me.
Thurstylark@lemm.eeto Lemmy Shitpost@lemmy.world•To bad we never did give electoral reform a try before The FallEnglish15·10 months agoYes.
My mom is also passive aggressive, but I don’t think she realizes how bad it really is. She genuinely believes that she is operating in good faith, and is being kind or polite by not being direct.
But if you look past what she is saying, and listen to what she’s implying, it becomes very clear that she is extremely judgmental when others don’t live up to her impossible standards.
For context, I believe she has pretty good reason to have “come by it honestly”, as it were; Her father was in the Army, and spent a lot of her childhood flying Hueys in Vietnam, which left the kids with their born-and-raised Southern Baptist mother who holds a bachelor’s in Home Ec, and lived on base. It was pretty much drilled into her from the youngest age possible that keeping up appearances is absolutely crucial, and failing to do so or to care about doing so is a moral failing. She was basically trained by the Queen of passive aggression.
She fully believes she’s being considerate when offering use of her RV bathroom as an alternative to the bathroom in my aunt and uncle’s house. What’s wrong with that, you ask? Because the reason she considers that bathroom unsuitable is not because it doesn’t function properly, but because it doesn’t meet her standard of cleanliness.
She truly doesn’t understand that this single statement tells me everything I need to know about her opinion of the state of my living space. Also, considering that I’m entirely uninterested in someone’s judgment of me and/or my partner based on standards that are not possible for me to keep, it all but guaranteed that she will never be welcome in my home.
Because I know exactly what the result would be: More backhanded “kindness” in the form of unhelpful advice for disabled people written by non-disabled people, gifts of cleaning supplies, questions about my progress on tackling clutter, etc., etc…
The best way I’ve found to handle it is to take her implication, and state it bluntly. Hooooooooo boy, does it take the wind outta her sails when her polite facade is summarily ripped away mid conversation. She never expects it, because she starts these conversations with her own idea about how it will go. It’s incredibly satisfying to see the glimpse of sincerety as she realizes that the tools she uses to control her image are suddenly useless.
Now, I could rag on the mistakes of my parents until the cows come home, but just to be clear, I believe she is earnestly attempting kindness, and doesn’t realize what she’s doing. She was just held to impossible expectations by a strict, overwhelmed caregiver who was a poor role model because of their inappropriate priorities (among a long list of other things). It’s still hurtful behavior, and it still needs to stop, and I will continue calling her out on it, but I don’t blame her for it.
That being said, I refuse to pass this on. The passive aggressive lineage ends with me.
E: accidentally a word
Thurstylark@lemm.eeto Asklemmy@lemmy.ml•why do pharmacies have these signs with whacky animations?English3·10 months agoAhh, that’s genuinely interesting, thanks!
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