Sure like dystopian scifi, but less the 1984-kind and more the Homefront or Hunger Games-kind (the Academy thing gives me real YA novel vibes specifically that whole wave of Hunger Games like scifi).

Slayyy…?

Hey man, I can quit whenever I like… Just one more draft and I’ll hit the big leagues

MTGA. Lots of fun.

So awesome! That’s what communication does :) if someone is right for you, being honest is always the best way to understand what works for eachother!

Very glad it all worked out. This is how it should feel when you open up to someone that cares about you.

So like, I wasn’t much better when I was 21, but I do think you did go a bit far here.

It is not your place to ban him or control what he does online, you can however tell him it makes you sad that he watches others. You said as much ypurself and you should probably explain and apologize for the overreach, but explain why. I personally think that watching porn has nothing to do with any partber you may have. It is not a real relationship and possibly even a problem he has, no way to know. What it doesn’t do tho is reflect on you. Finding any other person attractive doesn’t mean he doesn’t find you attractive, there is no correlation.

You should talk it out, without blaming him but explaining that it makes you worried and sad and why, and unless you present it like “he should have known” he will listen if he cares about you. This is not a he problem or a you problem it is a plural you problem (god this sounds better in languages with more exact wording…)

Ignorance has consequences tho.

That’s true. It is a human trait. But at the moment the ones making that mistake again are the Americans.

It it was unprecedented, would it be more or less forgivable? I don’t know really.

Mm it makes me very angry and sad to see peoples response to this. I feel like in Europe at least more and more people are becoming aware that it is not in fact just “the art of the deal”, but serious. Still a lot of careful rethoric thrown around and a lot of people refuse accepting the situation (fascists in the white house) but it is getting better. I have no idea how it is in the US tho except for some news articles which don’t tell me shit about what people think…

I’m pissed at the american people.

Without getting into insults and earning a ban, they voted for this guy.

It’s ridiculous people are still pretending that the Trump admin aren’t fascists even tho they do everything to make it crystal clear.

Yes I figured but wasn’t sure if I wasn’t missing something lol. Well at least I learned a new term (defederated).

When I say decentralization I refer to the fact that it is federated. Not sure what you mean.

I have never gotten into twitter so I couldn’t say, and I narrowly missed MySpace as well…

It was a lot of fun tho

It is a neat place, thank you!

Tumblr was a lot of fun. Yes it is a microblogging platform, but that doesn’t explain what the appeal was. I have no idea what the appeal is today as I left in 2015.

People would share text or image or links of things they liked, and if you reblogged it (shared to your own blog) the comment you added would be retained when someone reblogged your reblog, creating ludicrous chains of conversations that people would build and build on. They eventually became unreadable because they got squashed into one line. There was no way to comment without reblogging.

Tumblr predates influencer culture, and tumblr celebrities were not really a thing (except for @pizza by accident being tagged everywhere).

You also had a tag system, where you added hashtags to reblogs that were searchable. This way you would find topics you liked, and blogs to follow. If you followed you would get their reblogs in your home feed.

The blogs had custom CSS, with graphics and music playing but less free for all than MySpace. This made some blogs into minor art pieces, along with the things they reblogged. This was a big part of what made tumblr cool when websites all started going uniform and looking exactly the same.

For me the initial appeal was high def images. Instagram had not taken off, and so finding consistent high quality images of art, nature, sub culture and pop culture imagery or artists, porn etc. was not as obvious as it is today.

I loved tumblr but eventually got bored. Eventually they killed custom CSS and porn, and basically made tumblr worthless for anyone who wasn’t into fandoms (/s but kind of not. I have no idea what happens on tumblr today).

I am very new here, and not as passionate about the fediverse as some of you are (like your average redditor most likely).

Reading the comments here I think that the fact that you notice decentralization as a user can be a problem for many but offering simple instance lists, community lists in the UI can mitigate that and make it more a feature than a nuisance (for those that have trouble navigating it).

On desktop, I don’t mind switching servers with different URLs, especially since I can read them all with the same proton UI. However, on mobile (I spend more time on social media via mobile than desktop, I imagine most people do these days) using the Jerboa app I cannot figure out how to “visit” another server. I can’t enter the URL, I cannot click on the URL, I cannot search for @URL and get a list of the communities hosted on it…

I am sure there is documentation somewhere explaining how I achieve this, but I should not have to look for that just to acces different instances. I use lemmy on breaks mostly and as I said, am not passionate enough about social media to read manpages for it… I imagine some will think “then we don’t need people like you here”, but in the end if close-to mainstream user adoption is a goal, you kind of will need people who just want to look at cats and discover communities as well, and making jumping between instances and finding communities is an important part of making that happen.

Edit: I do not think having an official sign up is a solutiom btw, I think different servers are neat, and I most likely will sign up to another I am more in line with when I know which are available. It is neat to choose a home server, but it should be seemless to find others. There is no need to obfuscate servers and pretend everything is centralized, but having easy access to a centralized list of servers and communities built into the UI seems like a must for me.