But like what even is a social media for women? I wasn’t aware the ones we currently have were for men

Oof, sounds like we really need a new, better put together version of the protocol. I wonder if the W3C would be good to do that.

Sounds like the protocol needs an upgrade if people are doing funny stuff like that. No?

They’re not communist fight communities explicitly though. I haven’t joined any communist-themed communities. It’s just content that kinda bubbles up left and right.

I COULD start avoiding everything “.ml”, but that sounds counter-productive.

Well, it’s not because something has the potential to be addictive that it’s necessarily bad. After all, a video game that isn’t addictive at all could also be called boring.

I think the line between an enjoyable experience and unhealthy addictive features is drawn in user choice and the absence of malicious intent.

1. The apps are kinda meh. I haven’t found one that doesn’t come with significant disadvantages yet, and I’ve tried FIVE.

2. There’s no recommendations feed. You see what you’re subscribed to, or everything. No in-between. You can’t see what you’ve subscribed to, and a few posts that the algorithm thinks you might like. People like to complain about the algorithm, but one reason it’s so addictive is that it’s useful.

3. Notifications don’t work in every app

4. Just having a feed that behaves normally seems to be really hard to do for apps. Stop slowing me posts I’ve already scrolled past, and when I click home/pull down to refresh, I want new posts, not the same thing again that I’ve already scrolled past and ignored. Some apps have settings (that are somehow not on by default) to hide read posts and mark posts read on scroll, but I haven’t tried an app where that works every time.

5. There’s no “main” app. Think about Reddit before the API fees. There used to be a default app. It had its issues, but most features worked out of the box, and most things were intuitive and normie-friendly. You could use that to get comfortable with the social network itself, and then eventually try other apps when something got too annoying.

   Compare that with Lemmy. You want to try it, and you already have to deal with choice paralysis. A ton of apps on the website, with utterly unhelpful descriptions (“an open-source Lemmy client developed by so-and-so”; wow, exactly zero of those words help me pick) and a random order that doesn’t even let me default to one most popular one.

   Quite a few apps focus on niche UI features like swipe-based navigation while still not having the basics down right. I’m several months into having joined Lemmy and I still haven’t found an app that feels somewhat right. That is a challenge not one of the other social networks has managed. Congrats, Lemmy. Impressive.

6. Picking a server and signing up in general is complicated. And it’s an impactful decision that you have NO tools to make so early, unless you start researching like it’s school homework.

   .world? That’s popular but you’ll be judged for having joined it, plus you lose access to the piracy community. .ml? Hope you like communists and DRAMA. And if you get it wrong, there’s no intuitive and easy way to migrate. You clunkily export your settings and re-import them; the servers will NOT talk to each other. And even then you lose some stuff.

   This UX issue is tough. I don’t have an easy solution. But I’m sure a UX expert could find one.

7. Manual validation of your sign-up by a human. What is this, a Facebook group? If you introduce a 24-hour delay so early in the process, of course people are going to fall off.

8. The mouse logo is kinda ugly, won’t lie. I’m sure it’s a more potent people repellent than you think.

9. There is a LOT of tribalism. On Reddit, there’s r/Canada, that’s full of convinced conservatives that won’t hesitate to artificially skew the discourse. And there’s r/OnGuardForThee, basically the same but with progressives angry at the conservatives.

   On Lemmy, that feels like the rule, not the exception. I just joined communities based on my interests, and my feed is full of communist vs communist vs non-communist drama. Can we frickin’ chill?

   If I need to start filtering out whole fields of interest that were taken over, joining less popular community clones or literally defederating instances to get a good experience, we’ve got it wrong. Normal people don’t wanna do that when they literally just got here. They’ll just leave.

10. Somehow even more US-centric than Reddit. So… Much… American politics.

Probably not. They contained a lot of air at that point. But yeah … If it doesn’t look, taste or smell rotten, I’m usually not worried by food.

But then again, I’m vegetarian, so I avoid most non-obvious risks by that alone.

Btw I took a look at your comment and if it helps, washed eggs are good basically forever too. I never throw them away. I’ve eaten eggs that had been expired for 6 months, and while they were a little dried up (kinda dense; the white had shrunk), they were otherwise totally fine.

You know how they say you know there’s a methane or propane leak because of the smell of rotten eggs… I’ve never smelled rotten eggs. Only propane. Eggs refuse to rot.

I’m not American, but in a lot of American cooking videos I watch, the host will go like “NEVER eat raw egg” or “I’m tasting a small amount here but it’s a calculated risk I’m taking and you may not want to”.

You’re missing something!

I was convinced Japan also washed their eggs. I’m confused.

Also I’m curious about why Americans are really squeamish about people eating any egg products that haven’t been fully sterilized by cooking, while others generally aren’t scared of it, even if they’re in a country that washes eggs just like the US.

In the US, people don’t even taste their cake batter to check the amount of sugar before cooking it; in Canada, a summer isn’t whole until you’ve made strawberry mousse (ingredients: strawberries, egg whites, sugar; eaten raw). Perplexing. Is it riskier in the US, or is the risk equally low everywhere but Americans are really paranoid?

Isn’t that true, all other things being equal?

Look for other advice for repairing them, but making your couch feet bigger and softer with tennis balls or felt should prevent it from worsening.

Can someone help me understand the baldness and potash memes?

Isn’t that a lot of politicians? I hate Trump as much as the next gal, but this particular thing doesn’t sound all that out of the ordinary.

They’re pretty addictive, but solely because of the texture. Crispy yet melty. The taste is almost non-existent though.

You can buy bags of communion wafer scraps for cheap here. Well, they used to be actual scraps, but nowadays you get full uncut wafer rectangles in the bag so I think they just produce them on purpose.

Canada, that actually has land really close to Greenland: haha let’s play a silly war of flags and alcohol over an island no one cares about, it’ll be fun.

The US, that has absolutely nothing to do there: all your base are belong to us

Oh yeah, I’m realizing this late but I’ve got a feeling you might like twists on the magical girl genre like Mahou Shoujo Ikusei Keikaku. Puella Magi Madoka Magica was among the first and is all a fan favourite, but it’s not the one I like the most.

Mangaka. Author.

Akagi is a mahjong manga. It assumes you know mahjong from the beginning. I wouldn’t recommend it unless you really like the game. I barely made it 6 pages into the manga after someone gifted me a volume for Japanese practice.

If you want to see a lighter take on gambling, maybe Kakegurui or No Game No Life.

If you want death game stuff, maybe Btooom!. Mirai Nikki is also a classic in the same vein. Much more over the top would be the Fate series (Fate Stay Night, Fate Unlimited Blade Works, Fate Zero, etc.) Much less intense but still enjoyable was Death Parade. And we’re getting pretty far from the theme but theoretically Sword Art Online checks the death game box; reviled by true connoisseurs 🍷, I still think it’s plenty enjoyable if you don’t think about it too deeply.

If you’re looking for something in the “psychological” category, I can recommend Psycho-Pass for something serious with action, Oshi no ko for something serious with drama ,or Kaguya-sama wa kokurasetai! for a lighter take.