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Cake day: June 10th, 2023

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  • In the past, I just kept myself busy. I threw myself into work and my hobbies. If I got hit with a sudden wave of depression, I’d just take a deep breath, accept that it hurts, and try to refocus on whatever I was doing. Rinse and repeat until it eventually just stopped mattering to me.

    I also told myself that if I’m having to convince someone to stay with me, we probably aren’t as compatible as I’d imagined we were. And if I need a second person in my life to feel fulfilled, all that means is that I’m not living a fulfilling life for myself in the first place. That’s worth changing before even considering finding a partner. Finally, even if I convinced that person to return to me, I honestly wouldn’t feel the same way about them anymore, so what’s the point? There was probably someone better for me out there anyway (spoiler: there was).

    Start doing stuff for yourself that you can be proud of and brag about. Start accomplishing something you know you would never have if that other person stayed in your life. Give yourself a reason to love yourself before even considering bringing another person into the picture, because it’s not fair to them or yourself if you need to depend upon them just to be happy.